Marie Kondo is the queen of tidying up. Kondo is a Japanese organization consultant (bet you didn’t know that was a profession) who became a sensation when her KonMari method of cleaning became a global phenomenon. The book that introduced the methodology, The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up, has sold over 8 million copies worldwide, proving Kondo is the queen of clean. Now the organization expert has her own show on Netflix, Tidying Up with Marie Kondo.
What is KonMari?
— Marie Kondo (@MarieKondo) January 1, 2019
The idea behind Kondo’s method of clean-up is that you only keep items that spark joy. This results in you being surrounded by objects that instill happiness. That isn’t all that makes KonMari unique. While most tidying methods encourage you to work room-by-room, Konmari has your organize based on category. Now that you understand the basics let’s take a look at the first episode of Kondo’s new show!
What pressures do Rachel and Kevin face when trying to tidy up?
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— Rachel Resnick Friend (@itstheresnicks) January 2, 2019
As Kondo says “When you have young children maintaining a tidy household is a struggle.” The first episode hones in on overwhelmed parents, Rachel and Kevin Friend, whose dirty house woes are taking a toll on their relationship. Throughout the episode, the couple talks about the pressures they face when trying to maintain a tidy household.
One of the overarching issues is a lack of time and energy resulting in a lot of tension and stress. Kevin works 50 to 60 hour work weeks leaving Rachel to balance childcare and tidying up. Unfortunately, the childcare takes priority leaving her with little time to clean. This then stresses out Kevin who is more of a stickler for a neat space. It’s a vicious cycle where neither person feels like they can tackle the chores.
The couple has far too many items which contribute to clutter making it harder to keep things organized. Clothes regularly pile up despite them having a laundry lady — another point of tension in their relationship. Rachel hates laundry, but Kevin hates paying someone to do it. Dishes also pile up because of the sheer amount. Not to mention, it’s tough juggling washing dishes and chasing children.
Kondo’s admits her house gets cluttered sometimes too
Kondo sympathizes with the couple and admits that even her home gets messy. Kondo is a young mother of two children, Satsuki and Miko, who are 3 and 2 years old respectively. Despite being possibly the world’s best organization consultant, she too suffers from a cluttered house at times.
It’s refreshing to know that someone renown for their cleaning capabilities also struggles with balancing raising young children and keeping a tidy home. Unfortunately, the details of the mess are kept a secret in the show!
Later on, Kondo also mentions an area in her garage where she keeps things that she has the intention to store but didn’t, showing even Kondo loses track sometimes.
Kondo’s tips for kid-related messes
— Marie Kondo (@MarieKondo) November 17, 2017
When teaching Rachel and Kevin how to fold their clothes, Kondo recommends having the kids help during the process. Not only is it a family bonding experience, but it gets the children in good habits from a young age.
Here are some more kid-related cleaning tips from the clean queen:
- Gamify chores to keep kids focused and instill good habits
- Keep similar toys together
- Utilize clear pouches to keep loose items organized and stack the pouches vertically in baskets. This way everyone can easily see and access items.
- Only keep toys that your kids really love. This follows the spark joy method and will help cut down if your playroom is drowning in toys. The winners are typically the best ones and the ones they use the most. Let them know that unused toys can be donated and encourage them to give to a child in need!
KonMari helped Rachel and Kevin’s relationship
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“Marriage is a lifelong adventure filled with triumphs and defeats, and all married couples will experience different seasons in married life (1 Corinthians 7:28). Author James Thurber wrote, “Love is what you’ve been through with somebody.” In other words, it’s the journey of doing life together — the fun times, hard times, joyful times, painful times, exciting times — that deepens and grows our love for each other in a marriage relationship.” . In our 12 years of being together, Kevin and I have gone through a lot. There are plenty of things that test your marriage, having children being one of the biggest things. One thing that has not changed between us in the past decade is our willingness to be open about how we feel with each other. By being open and raw with each other, we are able to get to the root of what may not be working for us in that point in time. Resentment and guilt don’t live in this home ❌because we never let it get to that place. . Our life was recently aired to the entire world and I could not be more proud of how REAL it was in depicting who Kevin and I are, as a couple, and as parents. For those of you who have reached out sharing that you can relate to my husband and I, I admire your openness to share your stories with me and your deep understanding for what marriage really looks like—a goddamn rollercoaster packed with a few lows, but MOSTLY highs.❤️ . At the end of the day, it’s been the ride of a lifetime and consciously choosing to work on ourselves over the years has not only brought us closer, but allowed us to be the example for our children. Specifically that NO ONE IS PERFECT, love is not always enough, and that successful relationships require openness, flexibility, and kindness. . We don’t run or hide from our problems, but instead, OWN THEM so we can CONQUER them. Taking on the KonMari method was a prime example of what we are capable of when we work together toward what’s important to us. I’m pretty stoked on life right now. . Shout out to the very talented Nola @nolafontanezphotography for this awesome photo of us. . #quotes #marriage #struggle #konmari #tidyingup #beopen #beflexible #bekind #children #
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Learning the KonMari method really helped their relationship and it’s easy to see in the episode. Instead of cleaning being a chore it’s a cherished bonding experience that the two enjoy. With time to focus on each other and their relationship, things are finally headed in the right direction. The icing on the cake — despite hating laundry Rachel let the cleaning lady go. Wait, there’s more. Rachel and Kevin’s children are beginning to mimic the folding techniques. Clearly, the KonMari method is the way to go for a tidier house and a happier family.